Imago Dialogue – truly hearing and understanding each other
- Marleen
- Apr 29
- 3 min read
Relationship begins with real encounter
Many couples tell me that although they talk a lot, they often talk past each other. Misunderstandings creep in. Conversations go in circles. You don't feel heard, even though you're constantly explaining yourself. The Imago Dialogue starts right here: It creates a safe space where both sides are truly heard and understood.
I work with this approach because it offers a very clear structure that simultaneously allows for a great deal of depth. It's not about perfect communication, but rather about reconnecting with real people. And that's exactly what I'll guide you through, step by step.
How the Imago Dialogue works
The dialogue begins with listening. One of you speaks, the other listens, and reflects what is said in their own words. I will guide you calmly and clearly, interrupting when necessary, and ensuring that no one falls back into old patterns.
When mirroring, I support you in speaking slowly, staying with yourself, and not reacting immediately. I help the listener to stay truly present without immediately judging or interpreting. Many report that just this attentive repetition makes a difference – because they finally feel like they've been truly heard.
In the second step, I invite you to validate what you've heard. This doesn't mean you have to agree. But you can acknowledge that what the other person is saying makes sense from their perspective. This often opens a door: out of defensiveness and into a more open relationship.
In the third step, I'll guide you in developing compassion. I'll ask targeted questions that help you put yourself in the other person's shoes. How might that feel for them? What do they need right now? This is often the most touching moment—because it creates emotional closeness where previously there might have been only frustration.
My role in the dialogue
I guide you through the Imago Dialogue with clarity and calm. I structure the conversation, maintain the framework, and support you when things get emotional or contact threatens to break down. At the same time, I remain attentive to the dynamics between you, asking questions, slowing things down if things are moving too quickly, or encouraging you if one of you hesitates.
The Imago Dialogue isn't a conversation that simply happens. It's a mindful process. I'll be there as a translator, a guide, a silent third party who helps you connect with each other in a new way.
Individual and suitable for you
I don't use the Imago Dialogue in a rigid way. You bring your issues with you. I sense when the moment is right to open this space for you. Sometimes it's helpful right at the beginning, sometimes only after a few sessions. I work with a broad therapeutic toolbox and decide individually what will best support you in each moment. The Imago Dialogue is a very powerful tool that I enjoy using again and again.
The Imago Dialogue brings connection where distance or withdrawal would otherwise exist. It helps you listen without immediately reacting. It fosters understanding where previously there was only conflict. And it allows you to meet again as equals – not perfectly, but honestly and closely.
If you feel like you're constantly failing at the same points or aren't really reaching each other, the Imago Dialogue can be a new path. I'd be happy to support you. If you'd like to learn more, simply schedule a no-obligation initial consultation.
