Emotion-focused couples therapy – why I work with it
- Marleen
- Apr 29
- 2 min read
Take feelings seriously – strengthen connections
In couples therapy, I often encounter couples who are lost in the throes of everyday life. Between deadlines, misunderstandings, and old hurts, it's difficult to truly connect with each other. That's why I work with emotion-focused couples therapy , or EFT for short, among other techniques.
This method focuses on your emotional experiences. It's not superficial behavioral patterns that are crucial, but what lies beneath them—for example, the need for security, closeness, or recognition.
Scientifically researched and sustainably effective
EFT is one of the world's most researched methods of couples therapy. Numerous studies demonstrate that it not only brings short-term improvements but also leads to a more stable, deeper relationship in the long term.
The method is based on findings from attachment research and is particularly helpful when couples feel they have grown emotionally distant from each other. This is precisely why EFT has proven so helpful in my work—because it starts where real change is possible.
Emotion-focused couples therapy as part of my toolbox
I work integratively. This means I select from a variety of therapeutic approaches that best suit you as a couple and your situation. Emotionally focused couples therapy is a central element because it allows you to restore genuine connection.
Often, the reason behind an argument isn't simply anger or disappointment, but a deep need for closeness or security. Making these feelings visible and giving them space can permanently change the dynamic between two people.
Through my coaching, I support you in understanding yourself better and approaching others with fresh eyes. This builds trust and opens up new paths in your relationships.
A new look at the relationship
What I particularly appreciate about EFT is that it helps us stop fighting each other and instead see each other as allies again. The emotional level isn't ignored but taken seriously. This creates a genuine connection—even if it may have seemed lost for a long time.
Many couples experience a new depth in their relationship as a result. It's not about "right or wrong," but about being understood and seeing each other again. This is precisely what enables development.
I use emotion-focused couples therapy because it works. It brings clarity, depth, and closeness – and that's exactly what many couples seek when they come to me. It helps them meet each other again as people with feelings, not as adversaries.
If you're curious about whether this approach could help you, please contact me for a no-obligation initial consultation. I'm available for couples therapy and coaching in my private practice in Berlin Mitte, or online. I look forward to getting to know you.
